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"I try not to expect things from people because that's how they let me down." New Year, new mindset. At least that's what's going around right? Give it another week and most of the people who are all talk around the start of the new year will fall back into routine. It's sad, but they're annoying and it's true. I on the other hand am not slowing down. Being happy and doing something worth remembering come 2018 is high on my list. With these goals in mind I've been trying to pay close attention to how other happy people are so d*mn happy. One word; EXPECTATIONS. As in lower, of course. Having no expectations at all can cause more harm than good. But I've learned that a good balance of expectations as they relate to reality, can have a better outcome. Try to rethink the equation as reality over expectation instead of the other way around. Meeting new people, for example. The reality is that they don't know you and that they cou...

I'm not 100% sure what my resolution(s) for 2016 even was... I'm sure I set one; pretty sure anyway. But then again I don't know when I finally realized that resolutions are pretty stupid. I mean, it's mostly just something no one ever completes right?  I guess it's just not for everybody. There are those people who can set and reach clear goals of any difficulty. I, unfortunately, am not one of those people. I've learned over this past year that I just sort of need to live "free form". I don't really meet goals or milestones and when I don't I feel like I failed somehow.  I'd rather feel refreshed and excited by trying something new or completing something old than like I have meet goals to please others or myself.  Because let's be honest, those resolutions aren't really for you. If they were they'd be personal, not blasted all over social media so we can feel good about others seeing how hard we're trying...

I used to be that person. Full of complaints with no solutions. Now I'm the person that will still complain (only the truth!), but I also make an effort to get off my butt and DO something about my "problems". The things I hear and see vary from things people want to do, to places they want to visit, and life changes they want to make. If you have so many gripes... why not just do something else? There are so many factors to consider when the time comes to make a change. I can promise you that I understand it. Some changes will greatly affect other things in your life while others will have no affect at all. For example, wanting a new job will affect the current job, the skills you may have to acquire or sharpen to switch, the time it will take to apply (and schedule interviews) , and the change to your income can affect your life negatively or positively. While on the other hand wanting to do something simple like learning to cook is as simple as GETTING OFF Y...

School is out or finally over, no work on Monday, and it'll be hot and sunny all weekend. (In my hometown anyway) What are you going to do? Hopefully not sit in the house.  Now I love to do nothing as much as someone can love a thing. I literally make plans to do nothing and get pretty upset when those plans are ruined. But I've been slowly trying to do more because FOMO has ruined many a summer and spring break for me. Pull out your pen and paper kiddies; we're gonna learn some stuff today.  FOMO = Fear of Missing Out Fealing like something fun is happening somewhere without you. Although usually (in my case anyway) it's fact. Receiving or seeing a picture of your "friends" doing something awesome without you is easily the worst feeling. I'm training myself to not immediately feel as though they purposely left me out and instead think along the lines of positivity.  GOMO = Going Out More Often Is as easy as it sounds. It's the ...

What we don't see often enough are people who uplift each other.  And what people don't seem to understand is that complete strangers can have just as much power over us as our closest friends and family. Surprise surprise, it's not about caring what people think. It's about being human. So claim that no-one influences you because you're just so strong and I will happily ask you to have a seat and stop living in the clouds. Someone seeing a situation in your life from the outside can say a lot about you and how you carry yourself. It can also say a lot about whether the right or wrong people are guiding you through your life. Or whether the advice you've received in the past was definitely not for the best.  My decision to study Business when I entered school was my decision. But it was my decision for the benefit of others, not for the benefit of myself. One person, one art student, and the only art student who tagged along on a business ...

There are plenty of lessons my mother has taught me that I hold dear. There are also a few lessons that were hard to follow and only became staples for me in recent years. One of the most useful for me has been the statement; "Be yourself or be by yourself." I thought I understood the meaning of this but I was sadly mistaken. In several recent instances I have grown to truly understand what my mother meant. Being true to yourself, and simply being yourself, makes so many aspects of your life clearer and easier. Being comfortable with my voice (both on the page and off), as well as my personal style, and other things I enjoy has made my path in life that much clearer. There were places in my life where I was conforming to other people and didn't even realize it. This includes doing what family "expected", changing myself to catch guys or make friends, and trying to be like designers and artists I could never be. The pressure was coming from outsid...

I think everyone has the right to get REALLY excited when their birthday month rolls around. I for one, am losing my mind at the thought of giant metallic balloons in the shape of a '2' and '4'. But I'm also acutely aware of people who disregard their birthdays as the curse of aging and the yearly reminder that their lives are not going as planned. If this is the case just change your plans . I'll never understand why that concept is so confusing for people.  As a soon to be '24' I am right in the age bracket of people who feel like they've gone nowhere and accomplished nothing. It sad to see and hear, and even I have my moments. Growing up is scary and I'd like to think it always will be a little scary; no matter how old you are. Each age comes with different responsibilities and possibilities that are easy to fear. The trick to living happily is learning how to not let the fear rule you. Your birthday is a cosmic "good job yo...

I heard something interesting at work this morning. With there being an extra day at the end of this month you have "an extra day of your life". Pretty cool thought right? It gets better; use this day to do something extraordinary or exciting. Make this day one to not forget, whether you go out to your favorite restaurant and order something crazy, or get out and go someplace you've always wanted to go. Options can be a little limited this time around because this spare day lands on a Monday. Bummer. But what better way to pump up a soggy old Monday than with amazing plans? I personally plan on getting my hands on the largest margarita I can find. ( because I'm missing out on national margarita day today) Besides this awesome outlook on a longer month, I wanted to point out how people value (or don't) time. I can say that as I've gone through some of the crappier times in my twenty three years, I've learned that I need to stop wasting my time on...